Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior.
By contrast, the Chinese believe that the best way to protect their children is by preparing them for the future, letting them see what they’re capable of, and arming them with skills, work habits and inner confidence that no one can ever take away.
We don’t teach math. We don’t teach science. We teach self-esteem. They don’t have to even earn it, it’s a given. Critical thinking? Bah humbug!
Is the article tough? Yeah, but the truth is usually painful. The truth lies somewhere in the middle. Amy Chua is blessed because her daughter’s were raised in the US. They compete with the self esteem children.
Children are capable of so much, but they need guidance and nurturing (not coddling). What do you think?
January 19, 2011 at 9:24 am
DING DING DING! WINNER!
Or as I argued once long ago- children are given WAY too many choices. Appropriate choice for a three year old is “Would you like oatmeal or scrambled eggs for breakfast today?” NOT “What would you like for breakfast?”
Parents today seem to have this bizarre need to be the child’s friend. We are not here to be their friends- we are here to raise them to be productive law abiding citizens (of THIS country- not the world.)
just my opinion
January 19, 2011 at 9:43 am
You know PMM, the negotiation business with toddlers astounds me. I’m with you…we are here to raise productive law abiding citizens.
January 19, 2011 at 1:13 pm
And they know NO BEDTIME!
I see dozens and dozens of small children, say ages 1 to 10, in stores at 9pm, 10pm, 11pm or later and their parents apparently never have a set bed time for them. But they need their sleep because they screaming and fits could drown out a police siren.
January 19, 2011 at 2:39 pm
All you have to do is walk into a WalMart at 9pm.
January 19, 2011 at 9:46 am
I’ll share a story with you – I recently visited a woman the other day who has a newborn little girl. Before I went over there I had been talking to her on the phone about what we were going to discuss when I arrived. All the time we were on the phone, the little one was crying at the top of her lungs. I had never been to her house, mind you. When I showed up, I saw toys scattered all over the place. The momma’s live-in boyfriend/husband to be is a likable fella, although he has his toys as well. And I honestly could not differentiate between which toys belonged to the little one and which ones belonged to the boyfriend…
I find that children want to be treated as individuals. I think they loathe having to compete for attention with adults, especially when adults behave like kids. I think what you said is right, which is that most kids want to become productive, law-abiding citizens. However, it is very difficult to push them along that path, when adults are setting an example of 24/7/365 fun.
This is why I absolutely loathe the media – not so much because of the damage it has already done to so many adults these days by glamorizing leisure activities and “fun”, but because the outcome is predictable, which is a growing resentment and anger from young people. IMHO, this is what we’re seeing happening now. It idn’t about left or right, conservative or liberal, Democrat or Republican. It’s about genuine anger and resentment by young folks…
Can you blame them?!
January 19, 2011 at 10:30 am
You hit it Unc. My parent’s generation tried to make life much easier for their children. There was confusion about what “easier” meant. Turns out negotiation for everything (time with parents, toys, teevee) was now on the table for all. It created a monster because the msm glorified it. Who promised them “fun?” What authority does the msm have over children that we did not give them? We have to take responsibility for allowing our children to believe them. Didn’t we buy the teevees, cable and other baby sitting tools? We allowed it. What’s worse is that it has now become an entitlement, and you know how people feel about their entitlements.
I don’t care much for their anger because they still have life far easier than many others. I care about them as a whole because I see them failing over and over until they decide that perhaps their self esteem isn’t what it is really all about. I think we referred to it as “growing up.” In the meantime, they have lost time which they will never recover. Take that baby for instance, you can’t go back in time to hold that baby ever again.
Children should be treated as individuals. There is no one way. I don’t like the selfishness that has become ingrained in our society Unc. It’s always about “me.” That is killing us. Fun 24/7/365 is a lie that has been perpetuated till kingdom come. I foresee a lot of unhappiness coming at these young adults. The economy is not going to be treating them to fun anymore.
January 19, 2011 at 12:25 pm
Facebook game playing mom let’s son drown in tub.
January 19, 2011 at 2:15 pm
The media had a “vested” interest in pushing that agenda McNorman, because then it is easier to sell product to the parental units!!!!
MUST CONSUME MASS QUANTITIES!
January 19, 2011 at 2:40 pm
The parents need to grow up and assume the responsibility. They make them, they need to care for them. I did my job, now they must do theirs.
January 19, 2011 at 2:15 pm
Not to mention selling “it” to the kiddies!
January 19, 2011 at 9:37 am
http://news.yahoo.com/s/yblog_thelookout/20110118/ts_yblog_thelookout/kraft-foods-and-intel-introduce-face-scanning-meal-recommendation-machine
this is how stupid we are
January 19, 2011 at 9:45 am
OMG, I don’t even know how to respond to something so ridiculous. Great catch Nom.
January 19, 2011 at 9:45 am
http://www.wsws.org/articles/2011/jan2011/obam-j19.shtml and this: self-esteem for corporate “persons”
January 19, 2011 at 12:37 pm
OMG! And I thought the BK and MCD cash registers with the pics were ridiculous!
But hey- I AM old fashioned- I look at the flyer from the grocery store, check what I have on hand and make a menu for the week- which then translates into a shopping list.
Shame on me- lol
January 19, 2011 at 12:15 pm
McN asks, “What do you think?”
I think we don’t prop kids up in front of the TV as soon as they can almost sit up, we shut off the freaking TV and computer, we don’t give children cell phones, and maybe, just maybe, we scale back our “needs” so two incomes aren’t “necessary” and one parent can stay home to nurture those children instead of dumping the kids in nursery school from early morning to dinner time.
January 19, 2011 at 12:26 pm
I’m with you Mary, especially with scaling back so that someone is at home nurturing and guiding the children. Why have them if all you are going to do is buy them fun 24/7?
January 19, 2011 at 12:31 pm
Look, it’s ocotmom makiing money and not watching the kids.
January 19, 2011 at 12:45 pm
Exellent, McN.
January 19, 2011 at 3:41 pm
you should rally warn a person when you put up pics like that! my eyes!!
January 19, 2011 at 5:05 pm
Shoot, I should have said that it might cause blindness, huh? lol
January 20, 2011 at 11:03 am
Don’t make me put the video up Nom. lol